He speaks to the guru saying, "As it turns out, every relationship I get into fails. I seem to be very poor at picking the right woman. What do I need to do to find a good woman?"
I've noticed with friends and family that when you have a relationship, you either increase and grown better or decrease and get worse. It mostly happens little by little. You grow slowly apart or slowly together. In any case, you "find yourself" exactly where you are now.
And better doesn't mean more "successful" in terms of what you have. Better means you grown more comfortable being yourself around the person you love, and they grow more comfortable being their self around you. You're less and less embarrassed about your dreams, your shortcomings, and your body. You can share each with quite a lot of joy.
It's obvious but nearly undetectable. Have you ever noticed the insecurity a woman has about her body or a man about his identity and paycheck? Since when did we forget that a woman's body after kids is still quite impressive, and works just as well. And.... Did we forget that a man can only control how hard he works and not how much he gets paid?
You can easily find flaws in people, but if that is your goal, then you should get out of the relationship business. You should find a log cabin, and live there alone forever. Please do... And stay the hell away from me and my family.
The perfect person to be in a relationship with is empathic, caring, authentic, funny, and ironically ... Imperfect.
"Your effort should not be wasted in finding a good woman," the guru says, "but rather focused on becoming a good man."
I've noticed with friends and family that when you have a relationship, you either increase and grown better or decrease and get worse. It mostly happens little by little. You grow slowly apart or slowly together. In any case, you "find yourself" exactly where you are now.
And better doesn't mean more "successful" in terms of what you have. Better means you grown more comfortable being yourself around the person you love, and they grow more comfortable being their self around you. You're less and less embarrassed about your dreams, your shortcomings, and your body. You can share each with quite a lot of joy.
It's obvious but nearly undetectable. Have you ever noticed the insecurity a woman has about her body or a man about his identity and paycheck? Since when did we forget that a woman's body after kids is still quite impressive, and works just as well. And.... Did we forget that a man can only control how hard he works and not how much he gets paid?
You can easily find flaws in people, but if that is your goal, then you should get out of the relationship business. You should find a log cabin, and live there alone forever. Please do... And stay the hell away from me and my family.
The perfect person to be in a relationship with is empathic, caring, authentic, funny, and ironically ... Imperfect.
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