Build Your Relationship

 There's a man who finds himself upset after failing at multiple relationships. He has even been divorced a few times and is now seeking the advice of a guru.

He speaks to the guru saying,  "As it turns out, every relationship I get into fails. I seem to be very poor at picking the right woman.  What do I need to do to find a good woman?"

"Your effort should not be wasted in finding a good woman," the guru says, "but rather focused on becoming a good man."

 

I've noticed with friends and family that when you have a relationship, you either increase and grown better or decrease and get worse. It mostly happens little by little. You grow slowly apart or slowly together. In any case, you "find yourself" exactly where you are now.

And better doesn't mean more "successful" in terms of what you have. Better means you grown more comfortable being yourself around the person you love, and they grow more comfortable being their self around you. You're less and less embarrassed about your dreams, your shortcomings, and your body. You can share each with quite a lot of joy.

It's obvious but nearly undetectable. Have you ever noticed the insecurity a woman has about her body or a man about his identity and paycheck? Since when did we forget that a woman's body after kids is still quite impressive, and works just as well. And.... Did we forget that a man can only control how hard he works and not how much he gets paid?

You can easily find flaws in people, but if that is your goal, then you should get out of the relationship business. You should find a log cabin, and live there alone forever. Please do... And stay the hell away from me and my family.

The perfect person to be in a relationship with is empathic, caring, authentic, funny, and ironically ... Imperfect.

Put Forth Intense Effort First

When you are aiming to be a success in life, there is certainly a time to push yourself to the far reaches of your limits.

(Success, by the way, has been defined in many terms. Earl Nightingale had a great definition when he said, "success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal".)

Life is filled with examples of people who give their all for achievement.

Mark Divine, Navy Seal Author of Unbeatable Mind, recounts his training at Navy Seal indoctrination. He conveys that his instructors would have had to kill him to make him quit... A sentiment later echoed by Navy Seal Author of Lone Survivor, Marcus Lutrell... As I'm sure most any Seal would echo that sentiment.

Billionaire Mark Cuban advises that it is unwise to be "in balance", while pursuinch something that you want to achieve.

Mark Cuban, Beyoncé, 50-cent... They all recount going days without noticing that they hadn't eaten or slept, because they were so wrapped up in their work.

It's an amazing testament toward resisting the biological urge to take a break, in favor of the passion in pursuing the thing.

Benjamin Disraelie, former prime minister of the United Kingdom stated that, "Nothing can resist a will that will stake even existence for its fulfillment."

I actually set out to write about providing yourself with "breaks" and periods of "renewal", but my notes reminded me deeply that there are two sides to that story. Perhaps the time for renewal and rejuvenation should always be preceded by a time of intense effort.

Watch "I'm not your guru" on Netflix

I have been a fan of Tony Robbins since 2006. When I came back from Iraq in 2006, I bought and read his book Unlimited Power. It was my first introduction of any kind to self development literature, and it was a mind blower. It was a turning point.

I have been following Tony ever since, and I've always wanted to go to one of his seminars. I even consider sneeking into one at one point!

The reason I am thinking or writing about Tony Robbins in the first place is because there's a new documentary out about a seminar he does once a year in the United States called "date with destiny". The documentary is called "I am not your guru".


I highly recommend it, especially if you are ready for a good cry.


My primary Takeaway was owning the fact that all of the negative circumstances from the past have actually happened to me for my own benefit. Gosh that sounds stupid to say, but if you watch the intervention with the girl who is blaming her father it will really open your eyes to the sky.


Tony helps this woman realize that her drug addicted father actually served her to become the strong woman that she was. She was now to let go of blaming and start thanking him for the woman that he made her. It sounds fucking ridiculous, I know, but it is so touching and it really is true.

It reached me to the point that I am greatful for all of the negative circumstances that I have ever had to endure. I have even gone so far as to search my past for bad stuff, and prove to myself that it actually made me the amazing man I am today.

Everything in life happens FOR us. I am beginning to internalize this mantra more with contemplation and reason.


I'm not your guru! Watch it. 

Don't Eat After Dinner

 Here's something very interesting, that I will be looking into further.  In fact, I am four days in to testing this thing out. I will post back in about 21 days to review the results of this style of eating. It is very simple and it doesn't require altering the content of the diet (while that may help... OK it will definitely help), it only adjusts the timing of the food intake. Enjoy, and I'll check back in with you on this...



"12. Don’t Eat 3-4 Hours Before Bedtime. Anything you eat, even healthy food, a few hours before bedtime causes a surge in insulin and causes you to gain weight. Not eating after dinner induces a sort of fast. I don’t eat from 6pm to 8am the next morning. This gives my body 14 hours to detox, repair, and burn fat. If you eat after dinner, your body will burn that food for energy and never kicks into fat-burning mode for energy. Ideally, try to get your entire food intake in an 8-10 hour period. The rest of the time you’ll be burning FAT."

https://liveto110.com/cutting-edge-weight-loss-tips/

Gain Wisdom Through Experience

In the 1920's, Dale Carnegie wrote a book called How to Win Friends and Influence People. I highly recommend it.

My favorite part of this books is when Dale writes about the angry letters Abraham Lincoln used to write. Letters that Lincoln wrote, but never sent. He knew the damage it would do to the recipient, and he knew the benefit it would have to get off his chest.

I was reminded, upon picking up a National Geographic at the airport, that How to Win Friends and Influence People is not a prerequisite for success, neither are the products hawked from today's productivity gurus.

Confucius, Augustus Caesar, Socrates... They didn't have the book. Emperors, philosophers, inventors, Warriors... They didn't either.

Rather...

Deep wisdom has always seemed to come from a place of experience, as a result of action.

Create Products That Help Others

In 2013, I was wrapping up the final class in a 45 credit hour degree MBA program. The entire class was centered around a business simulation called CAPSIM.

Things were not going so well. I was failing. I had not failed a single college class...ever ... until now. I failed the final class in my graduate program. FRUSTRATING! to say the least.

I matched my frustration with a commitment to help other people not fall into the pitfall that it did. See, I traced my failure back to getting a slow start at learning the "ins and outs" of CAPSIM. The various inputs of human resources, marketing,  research and development, and especially finance were difficult to navigate. Furthermore, it was nearly impossible to learn the simulation from the materials on the CAPSIM web page. I had to learn by failing the class..

As a response, I created some insightful tutorials (on YouTube) on how to use the CAPSIM website, as well as, a blogpost on what were the key objectives of the student role in the program.

I published these products in 2013, and I am still getting views and followers, though I haven't updated or responded to the comments. (side note, it is uncharacteristic of me not to respond, but I no longer have access to the simulation to get the most current info for folks. I'm sure a lot has changed.)

Long story short, my CAPSIM blogpost has had over 5,000 views. The YouTube tutorials have 227 subscribers and nearly 150, 000 views!

I have had a ton of positive feedback, and a few negative comments as well. Here are a few of my favorite comments on my YouTube videos:

"That was incredibly helpful to watch before my group's first meeting"
"You are a GODSEND, these videos are so helpful!! Thanks for taking the time to make these!"
"your voice is as small as your dick"
"useless" (ok, that one hurts a little bit)

Subscribe to a Podcast

Call me old-fashioned but I like the long form of communication. It's the opposite of what we usually see today in interviews on shows like the today show. In those small segments with five minute interviews we usually see the highlights and the punchlines and the marketing techniques come to life. We don't get in-depth. And I like to get deep...

I like to see how people live and how people deal with different things in their lives. What habits, tricks, techniques, did people implement to cope with all the different things that happen in life? How do people become good fathers? How do people become physically fit? Not just in a vacuum, but in the midst of a life that is like a whirl wind most of the time.

I found that podcasts do this relatively well. They go on for an hour/ hour and a half/ two hours sometimes, and they go in depth with the people that are on the podcast. It's like being a fly on the wall, listening to the Giants just talk it out. The Giants are billionaires, athletes, chess prodigies etc.

For podcasting I would recommend the Tim Ferris show as well as the Ted radio hour.

These shows, and others, have really provided a lot of value and insight to me. It has replaced most of my book reading fact. 

These podcasts capture conversations between experts in just about any field you can think of. For example, I came across and listened to a podcast about pens and journals. The guy was an expert on ink pens and paper. He talked for about a half an hour about moleskin notebooks, field notes, and different kinds of notebooks and pens that are best for different situations. Who would've thought?

The availability of knowledge from experts is really quite amazing. And it's very portable as well.  

I hope you can find one that you like! Happy listening.

Exercise Humor Like a Muscle

Steve Carell put it best in the movie The 40-year-old Virgin, when he said "is it true, that if you don't use it you lose it?". (wiener reference)

I love Steve Carell's work, which brings me to the subject of this post. It's important to have comedic geniuses in your entertainment feed. Your sense of humor is like a muscle. If you don't use it you lose it. But you can get it back, it just takes regular exercise. 

Just like exercise, short and intense is sometimes better. May I introduce, key and peel? They have about 100 gazillion skits on YouTube that are free and hilarious and around 5 minutes each. when life gets too serious, I'll turn to them. 

Check out the "competition in the workplace" skit. This is awesomeness!

 

Who you turn to is up to you, just follow the rules of exercise:

1. Do no harm! The idea is to enhance you wit and your character. Choose some humor that is not actually degrading your character. 
2. Consistency. Engage with humor regularly. You have to spend some time with it for it to become a part of you.

Good humor humor not only makes up for where people lack in a lot of different areas, (think ugly guy/hot girl... But he's funny). it also makes a complete person.View building and developing your humor not as a "extra", but as a necessity.

Start Your Own Business

Call me crazy, but I’ve always been interested in business and entrepreneurship (a word I cannot honestly even spell on my own). I’ve always been interested, but never started anything.

I have been frozen by the same question that many people are frozen by, the same people who have also fantasized about starting their own business. What business should I do? Hopefully, I can shed some light on this question.

It wasn’t until recently that learned that this is actually a false question. I know “what” to do. I just needed to learn “why” to do it. Allow me to explain.

You can pretty much agree that you have some value…correct? This value is inherent in you education, skills, personality, and so forth. I mean, if you have a job today, your skills are at least worth a set dollar amount to your employer. (Possibly undervalued dollar amount?)

What person are you? You could be a person who builds things, fixes things, writes things, encourages relationships that otherwise would not have happened. Even if it is just reading your favorite magazine and talking about the articles with friends. In a world that is lacking that social touch, there is a market for that today. It’s called YouTube and podcasting! Yes, people literally watch other people talk about things ….. I know! It’s crazy. (And there are clever ways to monetize)

The general answer to the question “why” is; you are doing this to change people for the better. Let that resonate as the key component. Seth Godin teaches to “be generous enough to do work that changes people for the better”. Keep in mind:

• Don’t quit your day job until people start paying you.
• Don’t wait until people start paying to start putting in the word.
• Don’t start putting in the work, if it’s not something you enjoy. If you want to make money doing stuff you do NOT really enjoy, just do it for a corporation with a matching 401k program.
   

This advice from Mark Cuban on how to fund your business is really refreshing. He is a billionaire, and he literally believes that the best way to fund your business is by doing your own work (aka free).

 

Mark Cuban’s (billionaire, Shark Tank star)-How to raise money for your business via Chase Jarvis Live.

 

 IN ORDER of precedence;

 

1. Sweat equity (costs you NOTHING, but your hard work)
2. Customer equity (Customers buying your product)
3. Crowd funded equity (raising $ via donation from people who want to see your product developed and available to the world)
4. Venture capital $ and Bank $ (money that you owe back, with strings attached)

 

So, with the “why” question out of the way, what would possibly hold you back?

The Value of Your Library ($14,000 per year/infinite value)

After reading the biography of Elion Musk (billionaire cofounder of EBay, Tesla, and Space X), I made one pretty important conclusion. People who love books should have access to as many books as they can get their hands on. It was said of Musk, that after he finished reading every book in the house, he would turn to the dictionaries and the encyclopedias, and just start reading line by line. I felt bad for the young soon-to-be billionaire. Poor billionaire…If only there were a place with hundreds of free books…

Here is a photo from my library.

I have a person in my family who reads like Elion Musk, and it’s definitely not me. My oldest daughter, Natalia, reads everything she can get her hands on. It’s inspiring to see. My middle daughter, who is now beginning to read, reads like most people. She reads with great interest, but only those things which interest her (and throwing in a few pictures never hurt anybody). If only there were a place…

Enter the Public Library

I am always on the search for small actions or habits that translate into big change. So when I started thinking about our weekly trips to the library, I was encouraged. I found that I could enable my daughters to explore and grow their vocabulary at least and every aspect of their lives at most. I even found that I could play a role in educating young women, which has implications beyond what I could possibly image (peacefully defeat the Taliban, anyone?).

If only…

MOST importantly, I found that I could make all these lasting changes for free. Daddy likely..

In fact, our last haul from the library included 12 (at the store, $17 each avg) picture books, 10-20 easy chapter books (at the store, $7 each avg), and an audio book ($20). All of these books will be devoured by next week. On a side note, I have found that reading the picture books to my children is quite fun, especially ones about cavemen and samurai swords. The lessons are timeless and good.

Given a LOW estimate, my family will consume about $14,000 of educational material, per year, for free.

Some times for the library.

·         Capitalize on strengths, make weaknesses irrelevant. If one child loves to read, let the child go nuts and don’t restrict them. If one doesn’t, let them play with computers or toys. No harm done. Don’t force it.

·         Use the library website to request books from across the entire library system for free. The newest version of Fancy Nancy is $7.99 at Barnes and Noble? It’s free at the library. (Side note; I’ve bought many books at this price, only to watch my daughter devour them faster than a happy meal. Waiting a week or two for the library to get it in is a great investment).

·         Visit the library habitually. Once a week is good. Try to make three weeks out of the month, and you are all set. Book check outs are for three weeks, so that’s plenty of time to forget something and still have time to bring it back next week.

·         Don’t spend a whole lot of time in the actually library. It’s full of wierdos. Get the good haul of books in under an hour, and bring them home to enjoy.

Affirmations are not Coocoo for Cocoa Puffs

Affirmations are generally a good idea. I mean, really, it’s not as taboo as you might think. Robert Collier once said, “The subconscious mind believes whatever it hears, when it is told often and convincingly enough.”

There is always some self-talk going on. We are ALWAYS communicating with ourselves. Would it be stretch to ask ourselves to start saying something beneficial?

I mean, especially in a world that is already slipping us often and convincing messages about ….whatever they want us to believe. Let’s take back our unconscious mind, which could arguably be a great percentage of our capacity as humans (maybe more so than we would like to notice).

 Using an affirmation, as I define it, is telling your self-something (or writing it) 15 times in a convincing and believing spirit, every day for a chosen time period.

Here is an example. For the two weeks leading up the start of the school year, I have said, “the new school year will be rich and rewarding for the whole family”. This primes the brain to respond to the many uncertainties of the school year under the framework that richness and reward is the most likely outcome.

I use an affirmation for daily use, such as “life happens FOR us” (opposing the belief that likes to slip in automatic which is “life happens TO us”.

However, my favorite way to use affirmations is leading up to an event.

-a big move

-start of school year

-a promotion

It is even beneficial for a perceivably negative circumstance, like:

-at the beginning of a long work weekend

-after an argument

-at the receipt of “bad” news

Robert Collier, by the way, is the author of the The Secret of the Ages. It is the original “Secret” book that needs NO edits, updates, or flashy new marketing. It’s just fantastic, inspiring, while at the same time, containing some head-shaking doses of philosophy that are quite quacky.

Want to know more for free?

If you are moved to learn more, read the PDF The Secret of the Ages. Downloadable for free.

http://tigerseyedowsing.com/ds/other/Secret.pdf

 Also, get to your library or Barnes and Noble and read the chapter on affirmations in the book by Scott Adams, How to Fail at Everything and Still Win Big.

Are human penises different than animal penises?

I woke up this morning with a unique question. It was question that made me laugh to myself hysterically. It also was very thought provoking and proved to be interesting enough to look into further detail. I posed this question to a veterinarian friend, who seemed uniquely qualified to answer it.

 

“Friend,

 

I need your opinion on something. It is important. How are human dicks different than animal dicks?

 

For example, I heard that dolphins and maybe one other mammal has sex for pleasure, besides humans. Is that true?

 

Thanks,

Josh”

 

Nope.  Sorry to break the news to you, but dicks are dicks.  Every mammal gets one for sex and pleasure.  Some of them look weird (like the sugar glider), but the basic mammalian pattern remains the same :)

“This answer is disappointing and all too cavalier”, I thought to myself. Especially when you take into account the photo that he had sent me a few weeks prior. It’s a photo of a sugar glider dick. Apparently, there was some kind of medical issue and my veterinarian friend had to perform surgery.  This, however, is how a sugar glider dick looks.

 

 

Not quite satisfied with the answer, I took to a real profession. I former member of the 4H in her state, who was awarded as runner for “Ms. Queen of Beef”. She illustrated to me that a pig phallus was significantly different that a human one. See below.

Animal wieners are gross.

Hero Worship

This leads me to the real point of this post. I’m trying to make a point a subject that Tim Ferriss calls “hero worship”. You see, Tim is always on the lookout for how he can become word class at things he enjoys. He defines world class as the top 5%. As a reference, he would put Olympic gold medalist Michael Phelps in the top .001%. Top 5% may be something like the strongest person in YOUR gym.

 

The reason you can’t necessary take advice from these extraordinarily high achievers like Michael Phelps, is the same reason a veterinarian may think human penises are similar to animal penises.

From Tim Ferriss

1.The top 1% often succeed despite how they train, not because of it. Superior genetics, or a luxurious full-time schedule make up for a lot.

2.Career specialist can’t externalize what they have internalized. Second nature is hard to teach.

Essentially, if you are too close to the action, it may be more difficult to relate to those who are not. As you take your journey toward the best version of yourself, seek to view things as they are, and practice things that work.

Do not view and practice things according to the “expert”, and in some cases, do the exact opposite.

Sleep in the Nude

Who would've thought this one, but sleeping naked fuels your metabolism.

I was wondering myself if sleeping naked would help a person lose weight. The reasoning I have for thinking this is this. The undergarments that we wear, especially the underwear, it's so very restrictive on what seems likely to be very important organs (perhaps even the penis? needs further study..). So, remove the undergarment. Increase the blood flow. Enhance all functions of the body for eight hours per night.

 

Seems logical to me. Now when I started looking into it, the fact is that sleep in the nude DOES help you fight infection and lose body fat. The reasoning, however, is a little bit different from mine.

 

Experts say that the body likes to be about a half degree lower while you sleep. It helps the brain waves do (whatever they need to do while you're sleeping). When you sleep without clothes on, you effective remove one layer of clothing (b/c you'll probably still use a sheet or blanket), and you facilitate the lowering of your body temperature faster and for longer. 

There is an apparent long list of benefits for sleeping in the nude, I did it last night and I woke up 30 minutes before my alarm clock!

Goals are for Losers Part 2

Everyone needs a good system for their life. If you've ever held a job, in a position that was previously held by another person, you know the feeling. When that person had absolutely no system in place, it was quite the heart ache for you to unfuck the disaster. But when that person who came before you had a solid system, And they were able to teach it to you before they left, the transition was sweet as pie.

A good system makes you feel good… Today! Your system can drive you towards higher levels in every area of your life. It's much easier to wrap your head around succeeding today, in your system (today), rather than having some far-off goal that you're always pretending is more important than how you feel now.

I get it. My favorite people espouse goals as well; Zig Ziglar, Jim Rohn, Tony Robbins, Sean Covey, the list is endless of people, who I love l, that guarantee that goals are the best way to go.

Your system is the anti-goal. You can still use goals, but use them exceedingly sparingly. Be prepared for the goal to stop your energy in any and every area of your life, except for the pursuit of that goal. Meanwhile be conscious of the great capacity for your life to improve with setting in play certain practices and procedures, policies and habits, relationships and boundaries that will all coalesce into your "System". They will essentially push you up against the good life.

Your system will be worth 1000 goals and will also give you the freedom to be energetic and productive today.

Mastery of Perception

Mastery of perception is the mother of the fulfilled life. You see, we think we see things as they are, but we really see things as we are. The way we view the world is really like a pair of glasses that we put on each day. And we decide if we're going to put on the glasses of optimism and hope, or the glasses of negativism and despair.

Marcus Aurelius once said, "remove the complaint of the harm that was done and you remove the harm". If only we would stop complaining about the thing, it would go away. Another person said, "everything you encounter is a mirror". You may choose to see the beauty of God in it, or you may choose to see yourself differently (and that's the one foot view, the point blank, the in your face... bitch). So the perception, and the focal point of our daily lives, becomes what drives how we feel. The sum of how we feel each day determines the quality of our life as a whole.

Most of this is not new news. It is old news, in fact. So, what is the high level 10,000 foot view? How, with a capital H, can we begin to change for the better our perception of the world around us? The number one way we can change our perception of the world around us, in a way that benefits us the most, is to embrace the fact that things in this "life happens FOR us, and not TO us".

 

I'm not sure where this phrase originated, but I've heard it said by Jim Carrey and Tony Robbins and probably a few others. This is a great starting point by which to frame your entire life. The most beneficial part of this belief is how it recruits all of your faculties to use both transgressions and negative points in your life as well as positive points in your life to create something that is going to benefit you.

 

If you learn to do this well, it becomes like a superpower.

Goals are for Losers!!! ...Part 1

Scott Adam says goals are for losers! There is a lot of evidence supporting his claim.

 

You might not recognize Scott Adams by hearing his name or looking at his face. In fact, I'm noticing a trend in a lot of people who do great work. They look like freaking weirdos.

 

 

But you would certainly recognize him from reading his work.

 

 

 

 

 

 

With a graduate level degree in business ,I certainly know a lot about goals. I can teach you a lot about goals using the smart system. I can even teach you the formula for making a goal in a way that makes it really easy and effective (courtesy of: The Four Disciplines of Execution).

 

Here is the format. Create your goals like this.

 

From x to y, by when.

Examples 

From 28% margin to 30% margin, by September 31st. 

From 200 pounds to 180 pounds by December 31st. 

Filter your goals through the SMART system.

 

S- is for specific 

M- is for measurable

A- is for attainable 

R- is for relevant 

T-is for time bound

 

The literature on how to make this process work is endless, as are the "gurus", seminars, workshops, and meat beatings. However, let me just illuminate the fact that this process really doesn't work, at least not the way you would hope it would. Here is why:

 

1. Goals don't work because they make you feel in adequate in the moment, like what you are or what you have is not enough right now. It eliminates the possibility of being successful on the day that matters most...today. 
2. The achievement of the goal a misnomer at most and elusive at best. As soon as you achieve the goal you are looking for the next best thing. Never ending chasm separating you from fulfillment.

Wouldn't be easier to set up a process that allows you to win every day?

 

   (EZRA POUND)

 

Ezra pound said, "only emotion endures". So, if we measure the quality of our today using emotional capital,we would rather not wait until a goal has been attained.  We may decide that we would rather be successful each and every day.

 

Starting Something New

So if you've never seen Seth Godin, he is a funky looking dude with usually some bright ass yellow or otherwise colorful glasses on. He is also a bit of a genius, who would rather say that we all have genius within us, than to admit to his own.

 

 

He is also a dude who has a lot of interesting and cool thoughts on a number of different subjects. The thing that caught my attention about Seth is when he was talking about trying something new. Seth says "trying is the opposite of hiding". 

I feel like Seth's entire volumes of work all kind of revolve around one principle, which is just trying a number of different things, until something works. The problem is that many people, myself included, feel like trying something needs to have a reward at the end..some reward that is, at very least, equal to the effort we put into it. Seth would say that this is not always the case exactly. Seth would say that success is not a straight line in fact, "success is never a straight line".

He was on the show today, Chase Jarvis live. And Chase had said that at times in his creative career he had thought thoughts like "what would happen if this doesn't turn out well?" (referring to a piece of art he was working on).  Chase then went on to explain that that thought pattern in and of itself is destructive for an artist.

I think with Chase Jarvis and Seth Godin are both trying to absolve themselves of is that the business mentality of X plus Y equals Z. I am a business major myself. I work for a large bureaucracy as well. I know how important goals are. I know how important not wasting time and energy is. I know how important certain initiatives can be, because of the outcomes that they will produce.

However, Seth and Chase are talking about our own personal lives, and furthermore our ventures as entrepreneurs. In the pursuit of these adventures, it is important to go out and experience and do things and try things that are different and new.

On his interview on Chase Jarvis live, linked below, Seth gave what I think is the best example of this using a bowling metaphor. He said if you had unlimited games of bowling you would want to go out and you would try different types of throws to experiment to see which throws work best for you and knocked down the most pins. If you only had a limited the number of games or a limited amount of resources, you wouldn't be that creative. You would probably throw in a straight line every time using the most predicted method of success. 

 

Chases interview with Seth Godin: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6xMxAZhgVvU

In this world the resources for being, a photographer for example, our nearly unlimited to those of us who live in developed nations. Therefore, there is no reason to not go out and try a bunch of new things and see what sticks. The only reason that might hold us back, the only thing that might hold us back, is fear of what others might think and fear that we may be wasting our own valuable time.